wǒ jiào guō yíng guāng

我叫郭盈光

My name is Guo Yingguang

wǒ jīn nián suì

我今年34岁

I am 34 years old

zuò le yī gè xíng wèi yì shù

做了一个行为艺术

Did a performance art

zài shàng hǎi rén mín gōng yuán

在上海人民公园

In Shanghai People's Park

jiù shì nà gè fēi cháng zhù míng de xiāng qīn jiǎo

就是那个非常著名的相亲角

Is that very famous blind date

gěi zì jǐ xiāng qīn

给自己相亲

Give yourself a blind date

wǒ jiù gěi zì jǐ xiě le yī fèn xiāng qīn guǎng gào

我就给自己写了一份相亲广告

I wrote myself a blind date ad

hòu miàn cáng le yī gè xiǎo de shè xiàng jī

后面藏了一个小的摄像机

There is a small camera hidden behind

rán hòu jiù jì lù le yī xiē tā men zhēn shí de fǎn yīng hé duì huà

然后就记录了一些他们真实的反应和对话

And then recorded some of their real reactions and conversations

suǒ yǒu de shū shū ā yí guò lái wèn de dì yī jù huà dōu shì

所有的叔叔阿姨过来问的第一句话都是

The first sentence all the uncles and aunts came to ask was

huì wèn nǐ nián jì duō dà

会问你年纪多大

Will ask how old you are

jiù shì zài tīng wán wǒ de nián jì zhī hòu

就是在听完我的年纪之后

Just after listening to my age

jiù shì liǎn shùn jiān jiù jiāng diào le

就是脸瞬间就僵掉了

My face went stiff in an instant

fēi cháng kuā zhāng nǐ zhī dào ba

非常夸张你知道吧

Very exaggerated, you know

nǐ suǒ guān xīn de nǐ jué dé zì jǐ hěn bàng de xìn xī

你所关心的、你觉得自己很棒的信息

Information that you care about and that you think is great

tā men jiù qí shí bìng bù shì tè bié guān xīn

他们就其实并不是特别关心

They don’t really care

tā men wèn wán wǒ dào dǐ duō dà de shí hòu

他们问完我到底多大的时候

When they asked me how old I was

rán hòu jiù kāi shǐ tǎo lùn

然后就开始讨论

Then start the discussion

tā men huì wán quán dāng wǒ bù cún zài

他们会完全当我不存在

They will treat me completely

nǐ kàn tā dú shuò shì jiù méi yǒu shén me yòng a

"你看她读硕士，就没有什么用啊"

"Look at her for a master's degree, it's useless"

tā men jiù huì shuō zài zhè gè xiāng qīn gōng yuán lǐ nán de jiù shì yín xíng kǎ

他们就会说"在这个相亲公园里，男的就是银行卡"

They would say "In this blind date park, the man is the bank card"

tā men píng jià wǒ jiù shì

他们评价我就是

They say that I am

wǒ shì gè fáng xíng bù cuò de fáng zi

我是个房型不错的房子

I am a nice house

dàn shì tā zhè gè fáng zi bù xíng a tā zhè gè fáng zi zài jiāo qū

"但是她这个房子不行啊，她这个房子在郊区"

"But her house is not good, her house is in the suburbs"

jiù yīn wèi tā nián jì dà le

"就因为她年纪大了"

"Just because she is older"

hòu lái wǒ péng yǒu jiù gěi wǒ qǐ le yī gè wài hào jiù jiào

后来我朋友就给我起了一个外号就叫

Later, my friend gave me a nickname called

zuì měi jiāo qū fáng

“最美郊区房”

"The most beautiful suburban house"

dāng shí wǒ tīng wán zhè xiē píng lùn de shí hòu

当时我听完这些评论的时候

When I listened to these comments

wǒ kàn zhù tā men wǒ jiù jué dé píng shén me ya

我看著他们我就觉得，凭什么呀

I looked at them and thought, why?

wèi shén me ya

为什么呀

why

wǒ jiù yǐ jīng biǎn zhí dào zhè zhǒng chéng dù le ma

我就已经贬值到这种程度了吗

Have I depreciated to this level?

wǒ běn kē xué de shè yǐng

我本科学的摄影

My undergraduate photography

dāng shí xuǎn zé chū guó dú shū de nà yī nián gāng hǎo suì

当时选择出国读书的那一年刚好30岁

I was just 30 years old the year I chose to study abroad

rán hòu gēn wǒ zhī qián de nán péng yǒu zhèng hǎo fēn shǒu

然后跟我之前的男朋友正好分手

And broke up with my former boyfriend

rán hòu wǒ yǐ jīng dào le yī gè suǒ wèi de shèng nǚ de nián jì

然后我已经到了一个所谓的"剩女"的年纪

Then I have reached the age of a so-called "leftover girl"

rán hòu wǒ dāng shí de xīn tài jiù shì

然后我当时的心态就是

Then my mentality was

duì zhù gàn ba

对著干吧

Do it

wǒ zuò zhè gè zuò pǐn jiù shì wǒ de yī gè bì yè chuàng zuò

我做这个作品，就是我的一个毕业创作

I made this work, it is a graduation project of mine

tā tàn tǎo xiàn zài de yī gè shè huì xiàn xiàng ba

它探讨现在的一个社会现象吧

Let’s explore a current social phenomenon

rán hòu guān yú bèi xiāng qīn bèi ān pái hūn yīn

然后关于"被相亲"、"被安排婚姻"

Then about "being dated" and "arranged for marriage"

qián qián hòu hòu qù xiāng qīn gōng yuán kě néng yǒu duō cì

前前后后去相亲公园可能有10多次

There may be more than 10 visits to the blind date park

dà gài chí xù yǒu liǎng nián duō

大概持续有两年多

Probably lasted for more than two years

wǒ shì zuò le sī xiǎng zhǔn bèi de qián tí xià

我是做了思想准备的前提下

I was prepared on the premise

wǒ kě néng hái shì yǒu diǎn ér méi fǎ jiē shòu

我可能还是有点儿没法接受

I may still be a little unacceptable

dì yī cì wǒ jiù fēn zhōng ba

第一次我就5分钟吧

I will take 5 minutes the first time

bù xíng le wǒ jiù jué dé wǒ bì xū dé zhǎo gè dì fāng jìng yī jìng

不行了，我就觉得我必须得找个地方静一静

No way, I think I have to find a place to be quiet

zài xiāng qīn gōng yuán

在相亲公园

In the blind date park

jiù jī běn kàn bù dào běn rén

就基本看不到本人

I can hardly see myself

dōu shì fù mǔ zài gěi ān pái

都是父母在给安排

Parents are making arrangements

xiāng qīn guǎng gào dōu fàng zài sǎn shàng

相亲广告都放在伞上

Blind date ads are all placed on the umbrella

nán shēng de huà kěn dìng shì yào xiě

男生的话肯定是要写

The boy’s words must be written

nǐ shì fǒu yǒu fáng zi yǒu chē

你是否有房子、有车

Do you have a house and a car

nǚ shēng shǒu xiān jiù yào xiě zì jǐ de nián jì

女生首先就要写自己的年纪

Girls must write their age first

huì xiě yī xiē jiù bǐ rú shuō pí fū bái xī

会写一些就比如说皮肤白皙

I can write something like fair skin

zhǎng xiāng jiā huì zuò fàn

长相佳、会做饭

Looks good and can cook

rán hòu hěn duō rén zài kàn

然后很多人在看

And then many people are watching

hěn duō zhè xiē bèi xiāng qīn de nián qīng rén

很多这些"被相亲"的年轻人

Many of these young people who are "being dated"

tā men kě néng zì jǐ dōu bù zhī dào tā men fù mǔ qù gěi tā men xiāng qīn

他们可能自己都不知道他们父母去给他们相亲

They may not even know that their parents went to give them a blind date

gǎn jué tā jiù shì yī gè gè rén zài nà lǐ biān

感觉它就是一个个人在那里边

It feels like a person is there

bèi zhǎn lǎn bèi tiāo xuǎn

被展览、被挑选

Be exhibited and selected

rán hòu wǒ jiù dài zhù xiāng jī qù pāi dào le yī xiē jiā zhǎng de xiào xiàng

然后我就带著相机去拍到了一些家长的肖像

Then I took my camera to take some portraits of parents

wǒ kàn le zhè xiē zhào piàn wǒ cái jué dé

我看了这些照片我才觉得

I just saw these photos

tā men hěn bù gāo xīng tā men hěn jiāo lǜ

他们很不高兴，他们很焦虑

They are very upset, they are very anxious

xiàn zài jiù zuò wán zhè gè xiàng mù lǐ jiě de xìng zhì huì gèng duō yī diǎn

现在就做完这个项目，理解的性质会更多一点

Finish this project now, the nature of understanding will be a bit more

cóng fēi cháng qiáng liè de yī zhǒng duì zhù gàn

从非常强烈的一种对著干

From a very strong one

jiù wǒ xiàn zài yǔn xǔ tè bié bù yī yàng de guān niàn de cún zài

就我现在允许特别不一样的观念的存在

As far as I now allow the existence of very different ideas

ér qiě cóng nà gè nián dài guò lái de rén xiàng wǒ chuán dá de xìn xī

而且，从那个年代过来的人向我传达的信息

Also, the message that people from that era conveyed to me

tā men rèn wèi shì yī zhǒng guān xīn de tài dù

他们认为是一种关心的态度

They think it's a caring attitude

jiù shì wǒ men shuāng fāng jiù shì gēn fù mǔ zhī jiān

就是我们双方，就是跟父母之间

Between us and our parents

jiù wǒ men hěn nán duì duì fāng de shēng huó zuò chū yī xiē gǎi biàn

就我们很难对对方的生活做出一些改变

It’s hard for us to make some changes to each other’s lives

wǒ xiǎng shuō de wǒ bìng bù shì fǎn duì hūn yīn

我想说的我并不是反对婚姻

I'm not saying that I am against marriage

qí shí wǒ fǎn duì de shì yī zhǒng suǒ wèi héng liàng xìng fú de biāo zhǔn

其实我反对的是一种所谓衡量幸福的标准

Actually what I am opposed to is a so-called measure of happiness

jiù shì nǐ zài yī gè bèi guī dìng de nián jì yǐ nèi bì xū dé jié hūn

就是你在一个被规定的年纪以内必须得结婚

That means you must get married within a prescribed age

dào le jié hūn nián jì wǒ bù jié hūn wǒ jiù bù xìng fú

到了结婚年纪我不结婚我就不幸福

When I get married, I won’t be happy unless I get married

nǐ de rén shēng jiù shì shī bài de

你的人生就是失败的

Your life is a failure

wǒ jué dé zuì zhōng hái shì néng zuì dà xiàn dù dì zuò zì jǐ

我觉得最终还是能最大限度地做自己

I think I can be myself to the maximum in the end

wǒ men zhī dào zì jǐ xiǎng yào shén me

我们知道自己想要什么

We know what we want

jiù fàng wǒ men zì jǐ qù guò wǒ men zì jǐ de shēng huó ba

就放我们自己去过我们自己的生活吧

Let us live our own lives