当我结婚生子后，我发现了保护和照看我所爱的人的意义。

When I married and had kids, I found meaning in protecting and watching over those I loved.

当他选择结婚生子等事情的时候，只有一些虔诚的正人君子关注。

Only pious prigs care about when he chooses to get married, or to sign his children's birth certificates, or whatever.

也许你觉得心平气和地谈论结婚生子这些问题明摆着不可能，没有道理甚至前后矛盾。

You might think it impossible, nonsensical or even contradictory to talk about an emotional topic like getting married or having children without emotion.

妇女们处于进退两难的境地：若不结婚生子会被社会边缘化，但要两全其美则压力重重。

Women are caught in a double bind, marginalized in the community if they are not wives and mothers, under excessive pressure to be perfect if they are.

相反，他们未婚生子。

Instead, they raise children out of wedlock.